Creator Mindset Essay
Aliya Belton
8 December2014
English 109
Victims and Creators
Ding of an alarm clock broke the student out of her sleep. She dragged herself to the bathroom to get dressed for school. Walking at a slow pace she barely made it to the bus stop before the bus came. Class had started when she finally decided to join them. A blonde lady with curly hair stood at the front of the class and announced that she would be collecting the assigned homework. The student immediately said “I don’t have it; I’ve been busy working long hours at my new job.” That exact statement is something that a victim would use. There are two types of people, Creators and Victims. Creators are people who see multiple options and they take actions that will help achieve the life they want. Victims are people who blame others for negative outcomes. Victims don’t take ownership for their actions. I have played the Victim role many times and I have learned that I was to be a Creator by accepting when I make mistakes.
In Mirman’s article a situation is described when two students who needed a book for the same class. The students both went to the bookstore and found out they were sold out. The first student acted as a victim. She didn’t take the proper actions to obtain the book for class. When the second student couldn’t find the book she didn’t give up. The student owned up to the bookstore not having the book. She called around to other bookstores near her college for the book until she found it. Creators become successful in life because they don’t blame others; they take ownership on issues. Creators ask questions to get their goals achieved. Victims just blame others for their issues.
The time I played the Victim was this pass June. I was not responsible at all. I chose to go to Miami and saw Beyonce in concert instead of paying my rent. I had made up my mind and nothing was going to stop me. I went to see Beyonce and Miami was a beautiful city. I figured I was going to work harder to get my bills down. I had planned to work extra hours to make up my rent money. When I got back I worked a few days then I got fired from my job. I started playing the blame game. I remembered my rent and how I had to pay it. I blamed my manger and my former coworkers. I said it was everybody’s fault but mine. It took me awhile to accept that my actions had led to me getting fired.
My boyfriend Darnell, on the other hand is such a Creator. He is very established and has all his things in order. He thinks about decisions before he make them. He never makes quick choices. He writes down everything that cost money to keep it balanced. He teaches me so much and to take ownership of my mistakes. When Darnell messes up things, he admits it and fix the problem. In the past when he have been late for appointments he don’t blame traffic or others. He teaches me to plan stuff out before I act on it. He always tells me to put my priorities first and to think things out. A time he acted on being a Creator was when I went to the concert and he paid my rent. He didn’t make excuses and blame others. He just did what I asked him with no problem.
I have put myself in a lot of messed up situations. When my actions would back fire I would blame other people for it happening to me. I would always say “Why me? Why is all this bad stuff happening to me, I don’t deserve this punishment?” Now I am learning act more as a Creator. I think my problems out before I take action. When I miss class I take it upon myself to contact my professor and explain the issue I am having. I still do my assignments even though I missed the class. I am not perfect. I am learning to be a good Creator. I do not blame others for my mistakes and I avoid messy decisions.